Why “Look At My Eyes?”

“Look at my Eyes—universally recognized as a plea uttered by so many parents of children with autism is now the unforgettable title of Melanie Fowler’s first book. The book highlights the importance of early autism diagnosis and treatment. Her message is clear and urgent: Do not wait. If you have a child with autism or you suspect your child has an autism spectrum disorder, the time to act is now. You will find Melanie’s advocacy for early diagnosis and treatment to be practical and sensible. Moreover, Melanie’s advice will help you avoid the unscrupulous charlatans peddling silver bullet treatments as she leads you straight to the evidence-based interventions that have been scientifically proven to produce meaningful outcomes. You will find yourself enamored by Melanie’s passion, her courage, her conviction, her humility, and her humor.”

Anthony Cammilleri, Ph.D., BCBA-D
Director, Jane Justin School
Jack B. Morris Chair

“Melanie and Seth Fowler are amazing parents and advocates for their son, William! Melanie is the author and Seth puts in a few of his observations as well. Melanie has a great sense of humor and lots of pragmatic advice for parents of children with any developmental disability. I agree with her approach: early intervention is key to good outcome. “To be the best advocate for your child, you need to keep going. “ Refreshing to hear that she has a positive view of the professionals who have worked with William and practical advice for the inevitable hassles with insurance. Her optimistic and knowledgeable approach will be a positive addition to what is often a negative type of literature full of inaccuracies.. Thank you Melanie!”

Joyce Elizabeth Mauk, M.D.
President, CEO and Medical Director
Board Certified in Pediatrics and Neurodevelopmental Pediatrics

“This book offers a rare combination of insight from a professional and experiential knowledge of a parent. Any caregiver facing the task of making decisions for their child with Autism would find its guidance helpful in maneuvering the difficult road that lies between concern, diagnosis and most importantly, intervention. Melanie helps to remind us all of the importance of early identification and treatment and the difference it can make for a family and a child. Early truly is best.”

Michele D. Gortney, MS, LPC
Director of Specialized Services
ECI of North Central Texas

36 responses to “Why “Look At My Eyes?”

  1. Kathryn Mayfield

    Melanie & Seth,
    I am in awe of your talents & strengths. I was not aware that a book was in development. I am eagerly awaiting reading this important book.

  2. Melanie and Seth, I am so proud of you both for your strength and love as a family. Keep up the good work. See you soon. Love, Robey

  3. Myrna Mueller

    What a wonderful testament for your family ! Your children and all other children will benefit from this book…who knows….Melanie, Seth and kiddos might just be on the “Today” show soon.!!!

    Good Luck and love ya !

  4. William was so blessed to be born into your family, just as I know you all have been so blessed by him. The Bolzes are privileged to count you as friends, and we’re so proud of you.

  5. Heidi Tossell

    You guys are amazing! Love you all so much!

  6. Tonya Rosenberger

    Melanie and Seth,
    You are amazing. I’m so proud of you for writing this book. I wish this resource were available when we first started our journey. I feel that we wasted such precious time (and money) trying to figure out what to do when we first suspected something wasn’t quite right. Like too many parents, we were willing to believe and try almost anything. I hate to admit how many evaluations, tests and treatments Matthew went through before we found the Child Study Center and ABA therapy.
    Your dedication to make sure others don’t get lost in this maze is truly inspirational.
    Thank you,

  7. Traci Jenkins

    I can’t wait to read your book, Melanie and Seth. Y’all are wonderful parents and an inspiration to all of us.

  8. Erin Kretzschmar Barnett

    Wow! This is awesome. Can’t wait to spread it to our parents and teachers of autistic children. Erin Kretzschmar Barnett

  9. thanks so much…please, please, please send it to everyone–not just those who deal directly with children with autism. Also encourage them to register to be contacted when the book is available for sale–that way we are able to have the right number for the 1st printing. Thanks again

  10. Melanie and Seth,
    You two continue to amaze me–is there anything you can’t do? What a blessing this book will be to countless parents, families and friends looking for answers. I have no doubt you will inspire others to make their voice heard in the often confusing discussion the swirls around Autism. You all touched my life in the short time I got to know you and your precious family and I know you will touch many more. I look forward to seeing the tremendous heights to which you all soar.


  11. Kathy O'Neil

    I am very proud of you on publishing your book, and look forward to buying a copy. William and Margaret were both born into a special family.


  12. Whitney Neal

    Congratulations on your book!


  13. Paul Russell

    Just placed an order. So exciting!! (I love the cover by the way, have been looking forward to seeing the final choice.)
    Blessings on your family and your endeavor!

  14. Many blessings to you for being such good parental advocates for your child!

    A few years ago our church produced a DVD entitled, “Angels & Autism” for a special project we were assigned. Dr. Joyce Mauk was included in the DVD as it was based on the lives of children on the autism spectrum here in the Metroplex. I would like to extend a copy to you and see if you would like to incorporate it into any connections you may have so we can continue to educate the public on the spectrum of autism.
    Joanie Ruppel

  15. that would be fantastic! There is such a need in the community for outreach and encouragement and education–not just educating those with special needs and autism, but educating the masses on how to handle children with autism–teachers, Sunday school workers, relatives, friends, city officials, employers…the children can hopefully learn to integrate into society, but if WE don’t learn how to relate to them then that is going to put our city and community in a dire position….If 1 in 70 boys born today have some sort of pervasive developmental disorder–what does our work force look like in 10, 20, 30 years? What about our tax base? What about the burden on cities and states to house, educate, train, and not receive any tax base from them? This is a serious threat!

    You can reach us at info@thefowler4group.com. Please send us an email and we can get together and team up to impact DFW!

  16. Greetings to our extended family as each and every child and family member struggling with this heart breaking and all to often spirtual and physically draining condition are indeed our extended family. We have been in the fight for 6 years with our wonderful daughter and have many things to share as we attempt to construct a residential facility for young adults with autism in the DFW area. I am curious to speak with anyone who may be interested in our endeavor, also I am looking for feedback on how parents like ourselves feel they are beinig treated by thier employers. We have been very surprised by our personal experiences in this regard and I must say it has not been very good.

  17. I just thought to include my e-mail address for those that might like to contact me.


    Thank you Melanie and Seth, I look forward to reading your book soon.

  18. pierre et gaelle

    here we go…i found it…congratulations for your poject,kisses
    The henry’s family(from belgium)

  19. My 3 y/o daughter has been in ECI since she was 18 months old. We’ve long suspected the “A” word but I was scared for a formal diagnosis. We’ve aged out of ECI and into the school system where of course testing and diagnosis was a must. Autism it was….

    You obviously know what turmoil we are in. My husbands Aunt and Uncle brought me your book and it really gave me the push I desperately needed. I had the child study center application filled out and sitting here for the last 3 weeks, scared to mail it, scared not to mail it. Well, its in the mail now!

    Thank you for this book. (especially knowing I was not alone with our special kind of finger painting…) Thank you for the push I needed for my daughter. Thank you for telling me to be insistent. I truly needed someone to not coddle me but to tell me to JUST DO IT.

    Thank you…

    Michelle Gross
    Hillsboro TX

  20. We’re so glad our book brought you some comfort…we understand the stress and fear of what a formal diagnosis could mean–but good for you on going through ECI and then applying for The Child Study Center…even after we applied there was a long wait and that made us nervous about doing the “right” thing. Melanie says it so well in the book…fight, fight, fight then keep on fighting! At times that can be harsh but in the years to come, hopefully you’ll see dividends paying off on the hard work and early intervention that you have already done.
    If ever there is anything we can do for you–please do not hesitate to ask. You can always contact us at info@thefowler4group.com
    If you liked the book–we urge you to post your review on amazon.com (we’re #12 or #13 when you search “look at my eyes”) and tell your friends and family–don’t you think the book would be helpful to your family as well? I know our families have gained an understanding since reading the book that we just couldn’t relay to them previously.
    Please stay in touch
    Seth & Melanie

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  22. curtis frens

    Dear Seth and Melanie,

    I came across a blog or something that was posted which was about people frantanizing you about what is best for your child, what the causes of your child being autistic stem from, etc. etc. My whole point is not anything related, but as I read your statements from the parent validation article you wrote I just cried.

    I myself do not have any children, but my sister has two children on the autism spectrum. And I love my sister and her children of course. They’re beautiful children and so smart. But I recall what you had wrote, parents just want to be heard. And although I cannot personally relate to where you are and the difficulties you experience, I know for sure, that God does. And as my sister and husband hurt for money in supporting her children, just as you, she came to realize that as much as she loves her children, God loves them more. I know this and believe this with all my heart.

    And so the purpose of this, is to encourage you and your wife to pour your heart to Him, because God loves to hear from His children. He hears you I promise, because He loves you so much, more than you and I will ever imagine. So may God guide you and lead you, and in your doubts and uncertainties, may He make level paths for you, in your fears and anxieties, may He calm your worries and raise you up and cover you in His faithful and steadfast love through Jesus Christ. God bless you Seth and Melanie. And God bless you William. May He give you strength when you are weak and protect you. I encourage you to read Romans 8!

    Thank you for your post and thank you for your time.



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  24. Thank you for checking out Look At My Eyes and sharing your Website with this forum. Keep spreading the word and telling everyone about autism and how important early intervention is for young children.

  25. Aaron Thacker

    Good afternoon, Just wanted to say a huge “Thanks” for your broadcast I heard today from May 25th – “A Parent’s Perspective – Raising an Autistic Child” from VoiceAmerica – Shining Bright. Every so often I’ll check out what podcasts, or Christian resources are out there when I feel like I’m losing the battle with Autism. Our 7 yr old twin boys(1 is has the formal diagnosis, the other is still in process) both experience autistic symptoms – and are totally on the opposite end of the spectrum. It was just good to hear a ‘dad’ verbalize the day to day frustration and remind us that we will get through it. Thanks for your message especially from a Christian standpoint.

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  28. I took a portrait of William last year and have included it in a project about autism. I hope the Fowler’s like it! http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/839923485/patterns-of-autism

  29. Hey you got your project off the ground! Way to go! We have published your Kickstarter clip to our FB page “Look At My Eyes” and will share with all we’re in contact with…best of luck on your project!

  30. That is awesome! Thx so much. Hopefully it works out!

  31. With tears in my eyes, all I can say is Thank you!!!!!

    Big Hugs,
    Annie & AshlynnMarie

  32. First of all I would like too say fantastic blog! I had a quick question that
    I’d like to ask if you do not mind. I was curious to
    find out how you center yourself and clear your head before
    writing. I have had a difficult time clearing mmy thoughts in getting my thoughts out.
    I do takoe pleasure in writing but it just seems like
    the first 10 too 15 minutes are generallly wasted simply just trying
    to figure out how to begin. Any ideas or hints? Cheers!

  33. I can’t speak for Melanie but when I write a blog the biggest hurdle for me is actually mustering up the energy and mental strength to write something. I seem to have all these blog ideas at the most random times and I try to keep a pad and pen around me wherever I am, but more often than not, I’ll have a great blog thought then will totally forget it…so that’s frustrating. Once I have a thought I try to get to a computer as quickly as I can so I won’t lose the inspiration.
    You can probably tell from reading my blogs that my style is totally different from Melanie’s. She is more calculated and articulate. I’m more stream of consciousness when it comes to writing. I try not to “vomit” all over the place but often I will re-read a blog and think “what was my intention there?”
    Much of the time I just write to get it out of my head or my heart. That is the “therapy” for me…just putting my words down instead of keeping them inside me.
    The greatest feeling is when I get a reply from people who have read my blog and can relate–it’s not like I’m having new or revolutionary thoughts–but they’re my thoughts and apparently there are many parents and people dealing with a child on the spectrum that identify with what I have to say.
    Thanks for reading

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