He said, “Be careful daddy”!!!

Those of you who know William know that he talks but he’s at times difficult to understand–okay, much of the time he’s difficult to understand. That is one of the HUGE issues with children with autism–communication. So many times Melanie and I get so frustrated because William will be totally melting down and crying and just so upset because he’s trying to communicate with us and we just can’t understand him. I know that happens with typical children as well…but it’s harder with a child on the spectrum.

His speech has improved greatly over the past year and we’re so grateful for that and so hopeful for what is to come…but while he will say things or will answer our questions, rarely does he initiate talk with spontaneous talk.

Until today!

I’m not saying we’ve cleared a hurdle and will never struggle…but this morning as I was standing on the kitchen counter to change a lightbulb (yes, I can change a lightbulb thank you very much) William just blurted out “Be careful daddy!”

Do you know what that means and what that represents? Some might not get it but to me it’s so huge…he actually initiated a conversation. He realized that I was standing on the counter and reaching to replace the lightbulb and that there was an element of danger.

Now it would’ve been really cool if he would’ve said, “Be careful daddy, you are already dressed for work and you don’t want to wrinkle your shirt”…we’ll work on that.

For now…it’s a great start!

3 responses to “He said, “Be careful daddy”!!!

  1. This makes me smile.

    A bunch of years ago I was a volunteer at a place that did therapeutic horseback riding. Peter was one of the riders. He was probably around 10 or so and was autistic. He didn’t communicate verbally very much other than mimicking. I worked with Peter most weeks, leading the horse he rode and helping him through the drills. He became one of my favorite riders. One morning he greeted me with a hearty “Good morning” even before I said anything to him. It wasn’t much, but it was a lot and still makes me smile when I think about it today.

  2. Lois Grudzinski

    I stumbled upon your blog while searching for “why is my 5 year old who is on the spectrum, standing on his head more than his feet” LOL

    I must say, I really enjoyed reading your post and I had a similar situtation just 2 days ago. My husband was in a really bad car accident and we (my husband, my 5 year old, and myself) were sitting in the Doctors office. Well, they called my husband back so Nick(my 5 year old) knew that was his time for the iPad. This little girl approached him, and of course I got a horrible nervous feeling in my stomach because situtations like these, are ususally never good. The little girl said “hello” and he just looked at her. She said “hello can you hear me?” Nick says, “Hi” and looks back down at the iPad. She sits down next to him and he puts the ipad down, looks at me and says “smell the flowers, blow out the candles… right mommy?” and i said “yes sir, smell the flowers and blow out the candles. Its okay”(thats our way of dealing with situtations.) He turned to her and said “i like the states and I know all 50 and the capitals! Do you want to practice with me?” i about fainted!!!!!! the little girls says “wow you know all of the states? Im 9 and only know my state. Can we just talk instead?” and Nick dug in his backpack, got his notepad, 2 crayons and 2 packs of fruit snacks. He GAVE HER A FRUIT SNACK AND CRAYON!!!!!!! then asked her to play tic tac toe!!!!!!!! I just wanted to share this with you because it seems like you would understand how BIG HUGE GINORMOUS of a deal that was!!!! I hope this comment finds you well and having much success!!!
    Have a wonderful day!

  3. thanks for sharing that story…I can only imagine the joy that came across your stunned face! These kids on the spectrum are so dang smart and they’re in there…they are in there! I know it and I can’t wait to get a little peek into their minds–hopefully that day will come soon. If you like our blog, you’ll love our book…check it out, read it, pass it along! Thanks

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