Ugh, ANOTHER thing I hate about Autism

The list is long and distinguished regarding the things I hate about autism…but this is the one on my mind…would LOVE to hear if this affects you and  your child and if so, what do you do about it?

William has these episodes of frustration or confusion where he starts spiraling and just can’t regroup and bounce back without major meltdowns or fits of rage.

For example…yesterday my wife picked him up from school and  he for some reason didn’t want the snack she gave him in the car.  He got frustrated with the snack and then when she took it away, he started freaking out.

Well what do you want?  The snack?  To eat it?  There’s almost like a no-win solution.

It got progressively worse.

We have these ABSURD radio stations in DFW that think it’s funny and cool to start playing Christmas music 24/7 starting the day after Halloween…it’s extremely annoying to me because I get very tired of the same 100 Christmas songs and why rush the holidays?

So William hears a Santa song…then they go home and watch a “Max & Ruby” (he loves those) and it’s about Christmas and so William can’t understand WHY there is no Christmas tree in our house.  He doesn’t understand the concept of time or seasons or anything like that.

He has a total meltdown…he cries and throws his favorite item (these days it’s hair brushes) and just can’t regroup and get it together.

So we turn off the video because he can’t handle it…to which he gets even more upset.

Have I mentioned a no-win situation?

We can’t start talking about going on a vacation or visiting family too soon because it doesn’t compute to him that we’re going to BeBe’s house…in a few days.  He thinks that because we’re talking about going somewhere, that it is going to happen immediately.

It’s really frustrating because we want to involve him in our activities and experiences and want to share the joy and excitement of anticipation and holidays and all that…but more often than not it ends up with him getting very upset and emotional and having a fit of frustration and rage.

Surely this happens to you too?  What are some tips to not have this happen or when they are spiraling, are there any ideas of how to regroup as quickly as possible and not have it turn into episodes?

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One response to “Ugh, ANOTHER thing I hate about Autism

  1. Our son Max has the same no-concept-of-time issue. For us the best way to involve him on events is to has a BIG schedule on the wall and when an event is coming up we count down to it.

    For example – Thanksgiving has a special card that goes on the calendar. It isn’t Thanksgiving until all of the numbers are put on before that card.
    Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn’t. If we’re away from the calendar it’s hard for him to visualize it since it’s not in front of him for reference. I may start taking pictures of it with my phone so he can see it later if asked.
    I’ve come to realize that when Max has a really frustrating day where nothing is the right answer there is always a problem that he isn’t able to vocalize; and most of the time it has absolutely nothing to do with the straw that broke the camels back (in your case, snack time.) Once it was that he had an ear infection, once he had the stomach flu, once he wasn’t able to remember his dream from the night before, sometimes we don’t get an answer.
    Lots of love to you all.

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