It took us a while – but we are buddies
If I’m being honest, I probably never thought my son, William, and I would be buddies. After he was diagnosed I went into a depression and malaise regarding him and regarding what I anticipated the future with a child on the spectrum would look like.
Initially those anticipations proved to mostly be true…William and I would do things together but I never got the feeling that we were developing a relationship or bond or that either of us really craved being together.
William is still really quiet. He has language but doesn’t initiate talking (unless he wants something badly enough) and he’s not one for having conversation.
That’s okay. I get it.
What he can do (and does a lot) is respond to my questions. He tells me when he wants something. He tells me if he likes one thing or another. He will answer in his own way – maybe not with words but with a hug or kiss or simply by not leaving the room immediately if I enter.
In the last blog I mentioned his penchant for doing puzzles. That has become something we do together.
We went a TCU vs Texas basketball game together earlier in 2018…that was something I never thought we’d do. He’s never going to follow players and their matriculation through high school to college to the NBA like I did (and still do), but he enjoyed clapping, high-fiving, eating popcorn and other treats when we went to the game.
He still says, “Daddy stop singing…stop singing, stop singing” when I’m into a singing mood…and that annoys me. He will still refuse to work on a puzzle together if he’s not in the mood. He will still sit silently in the car if I don’t try and pull word out of him.
And that’s okay.
We are now buddies.
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