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mind the gap

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I’m not gonna lie, the gap can be painful.

Oh, but yes, there is much to celebrate… many hurdles that get hurdled, many boxes that get checked.

But, with some, the gap continues to grow even with all of the successes.

Before you point and shake your finger at me… keep reading.

The first gap crawled in when his friends started kindergarten.

From then on, the gap grew feet and ran.

Interests shifted and soon all I heard about were orchestrated sports teams, play dates, and well, normal stuff.

But, he was making his own honorable progress…. He worked like a dog.

He still does.

The second and most shocking gap explosion came when my own daughter started kindergarten.

I couldn’t stop her brain!   It was so easy for her.

I marvel at the easy.

But, alas, the gap between my two muffins came and never left.

Sometimes I ignore and shove it way waaay back.

Sometimes I call it as I see it… and I deal with it.

Sometimes, I completely lose it.  I do.

I still do.

She has now surpassed him in math and reading and really any other subject you want to throw in… and she knows it. She is aware.

If I ended here, that would be sad.

But, wait for it…

Yes, she is aware. But, she is also aware that he can do the monkey bars better than anyone in our neck of the woods, that he has a crazy awesome ability to remember people and navigate, and can build a two story card house in a minute flat.

The list goes on. It keeps growing.

We celebrate it.

We talk about it.

We cultivate it.

The gap does exist. But, new talents and gifts can replace those cracks.

You just need eyes to see them… or maybe a brand new set. <smile>

To read more blogs from Melanie, Seth and TheFowler4Group, check out their Website (www.lookatmyeyes.com) and while you’re there, buy a copy of their book, “Look At My Eyes”.  Or find them on YouTube.  To contact TheFowler4 Group email: info@thefowler4group.com

Special Thanks to Jewett Photography DFW Photographers http://www.jewettphotography.com

great things He hath done

 

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Dear Margaret,

I see it. I see your mind trying to understand the complexity of the situation everyday.

I see you putting forth the attempts over and over to connect with him in the slightest inkling of a way.

I’ve watched you cry. I’ve watched you watch me cry.

I’ve watched you make a wish with your only precious penny that there would no longer be autism in our lives. That he would play with you. That he would snap out of it and be the big brother that you see in so many other families.

I’ve heard you ask as his birthday comes around each year….”Will he talk now?”

Last year you stopped asking.

I’ve watched you work tirelessly to get his attention and how a word uttered back to you is like having a thousand gifts to open. Your eyes reveal it.

I’ve seen you try to fix it. I’ve seen you fail.

In all of this, you must know…

This was not a mistake.

In many ways, you are closer than any other brother and sister could ever wish for.

You hang on to every word, touch, or look he gives you.

You are proud of his accomplishments and encourage him to always do more.

You are lavished with hugs and kisses from him anytime you wish.

You are his and he is yours.

The greatest gift is seeing how you are being changed, molded, and used for the ultimate purpose… for God’s glory and HIS alone.

Hold steadfast to this purpose sweet girl and know….

This was not a mistake.

Love,
Mommy

To read more blogs from Melanie, Seth and TheFowler4Group, check out their Website (www.lookatmyeyes.com) and while you’re there, buy a copy of their book, “Look At My Eyes”.  Or find them on YouTube.  To contact TheFowler4 Group email: info@thefowler4group.com

Special Thanks to Jewett Photography
DFW Photographers
http://www.jewettphotography.com