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The Fifth Greatest Invention for the Autism World…ever?

Continuing on our Top 10 list of Greatest Inventions for the Autism World…let’s recap

The First Greatest Invention was of course…The Timer

The Second Greatest Invention was then the…Mini-Trampoline

Then the Third Greatest Invention was the…Exercise Video (mainly P90X and Insanity)

And the Fourth Greatest Invention…The Dollar Store

FINALLY…let’s get down the the Fifth Greatest Invention for the Autism World…Cousins!

Yes I said it…a human being is a great invention (unless you think we came from a bar of soap and lightening)…but I digress…

Cousins.  Those of you who know me are aware that I have no cousins.  I have 2nd and 3rd cousins (still not sure how that makes any sense) but no 1st cousins–which seem to be the cousins that matter the most.

My mother was an only child and my father was not just an only child but he was adopted–so the Fowler Family Christmas Extravaganza growing up was pretty small.  We used to joke we could have a family reunion in a coat closet–and we were right.

Now before you start shedding a tear for pool old me with no cousins…I loved it!  I got to pick my own aunts (my sister called me Auuuuunts but we know the real pronunciation is annts) and uncles and family friends.  Our “family” was who we wanted it to be–our household was filled with fabulous people who would enter into our family, partake for a while and then move on…some stayed around for longer and to this day, they are connected with our family and I love it!

But I never had cousins.  I never understood why anyone would want more people to share grandparents and all those presents with…why would I want to get fewer presents for Christmas?  Makes no sense.

But now I understand.  My wife and I have two children…her sister has two children…her other sister has a child…my sister has four children…so my children have plenty of cousins and THEY LOVE THEM!

Especially my son with autism–he loves them tremendously!  When I tell him that we’re going on vacation or to see cousins he gets so excited!  The first person he prays for every single stinking night is Mary Catherine…one of the many cousins.  He prays for all of them.

The joy and excitement that I see on his face when he is around them is priceless.  They all are aware that he has some non-typical traits.  They all love him, play with him, include him, everything…it brings me such joy to see how much they love him and he loves them!

They don’t allow him to “be autistic”…now before you say “that’s a mean thing to say” hear me out…they make him look at their eyes, they make him use his words, they make him be a part of the group…now he might not interact as well as others, he might still stand on the sidelines and do his own thing…BUT…he loves to be around them, he loves to interact with them in his own way, he loves to impress them and wants desperately to be around them.

Cousins…now I understand what I was missing (although I still liked getting more Christmas presents as a kid)

Any recommendations for the Sixth Greatest?  Let me know…would love to hear from you out there!

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Stripping for Autism…Go Away Jenny McCarthy!

So it’s a Monday morning and I get to my computer at work and I start checking the emails I received over the weekend and I see a link to a wonderful Website called Special Needs Book Review where they have been so gracious to read our book, Look at My Eyes and they interviewed me (a dad) and did a great job.

I was so excited to have the opportunity to share some thoughts with this great outlet–that is read by many, many parents (and hopefully dads) and just thrilled to be able to make more connections…not just to hopefully sell some books, but to reach as many people dealing with a child on the autism spectrum as possible.

I went to my friend and fellow dad with child with autism Stuart Duncan to post the link to the interview on his site…Stuart lives in Canada and I have never met him but I would consider him a friend and a fellow father fighting for his son!  Stuart and I have had a few conference calls together and have been featured in  publications together…so it’s a joy to share information with him and to read his posts and blogs.

And there it was…I opened his page to see that Jenny McCarthy is apparently taking her clothes off for Playboy all in the name of Autism. (Note: I am not going to link the article of Jenny making this announcement because I don’t want any more clicks on that bullshit as possible)

Can I explain how angry I am right now?  Probably not!  This is just a joke and an outrage and I’m so ticked off on so many levels.

Who make this fraud the Queen of Autism?  She’s all about “curing autism” and how apparently her son had it and is now “cured” or something…which would be amazing since I don’t think I’ve EVER heard of anyone being cured from autism…but maybe he’s extra-extra special.

She’s big into bio-meds and all the vaccines “caused” my son to have autism although all of the reports she hangs onto have been disproved and not deemed scientific at all.

Let me get this straight…this no talent, fake boob, D-list “actress” (if you could call her that) who wrote a book (big deal, I wrote a book too–and it’s actually a helpful book!) and claims to have all the answers to autism–apparently she’s extra super smart…she just plays dumb in her life…is now going to take her clothes off to “fund autism research”

I’d love to go on and on and on about how pissed off I am and how stupid the media is to even report this…this is nothing more than a pathetic cry for attention by an aging (yet beautiful still I’m sure) never-has-been person peddling her son’s diagnosis to get money.

Shame on you Jenny McCarthy!  You are a disgrace to your son and to all the parents out there who are truly fighting and scraping every last resource possible to help pay for medicine, therapy, testing, treatment, anything and everything to give our child a future!

You are hurting those of us who truly are trying to make a difference in the autism community.

You are a shame to your name…you decided taking your clothes off 20 years ago was the best and only way to make a name for yourself and to make money…that’s fine, that’s up to you…and kudos to you for maintaining your surgically enhanced looks at your age now where you are able to be comfortable in stripping for the Playboy again…if you’ve got it, flaunt it.

BUT DON’T PRETEND THAT YOU’RE DOING THIS TO HELP YOUR SON AND OUT OF THE KINDNESS OF YOUR BOTOXED HEART…call it what it is….you need money and you crave attention…great, but don’t pimp your child in order to get attention or make money.

You don’t like what I’m saying…you are free to contact me directly and I’ll give you my mobile number and would love to visit with you!  info@thefowler4group.com

Have some respect for yourself and for your child…have some respect for us parents with children on the spectrum that can’t sleep because of the fears and stresses of our daily lives and the thought of our children growing up unable to blend into society as we get older…

Keep your mouth shut, keep your clothes on…or at least don’t associate Autism when you do it!

The Third Greatest Invention for the Autism World

Continuing on our journey of the Greatest Inventions for the Autism World…here’s MY OPINION for the Third…

BUT FIRST…in case you missed it:

The Greatest Invention for the Autism World

The Second Greatest Invention for the Autism World

And so…without further interruption…and remember people, this is not factual or scientifically based so please spare me the emails about “that’s not #3 on the list!”…this is my opinion and this is supposed to be fun and make you go “hmmmm”

The Third Greatest Invention for the Autism World…the exercise video!

Yep…you thought I was going to say some heavy  blanket or noise maker or spinning something didn’t you…NOPE…it’s the exercise video.

I guess it’s not called a video anymore these days but I’m a Gen-Xer and back in my day it was video so that’s what it’ll be.

Here’s why the Exercise Video is #3…because my 6-year-old son with Autism loves P90X and Insanity and if he likes it then it’s high on the list.

About 9 months ago I decided to start waking up early and doing the P90X workout at home…so I’d quietly get up and put in Tony Horton and start jumping and stretching and all this fun stuff.

Eventually my kids realized that I was up early and if they were quiet and not in my way they’d be allowed to get out of bed early. And so it came to be that my son started liking Tony Horton and P90X…not so much for the exercise but because it was routine…if you’ve never seen the videos they have about 13 of them and they’re all similar in that on the screen it will show the name of the exercise and will have a running timeclock and then Tony is one of those semi-annoying types that I find quiet enjoyable, but many just want to shut him up…he’s goofy and says funny things that just stick in your brain all day long…no really, ALL DAY LONG!

But it was good for my son because he would get up close to the screen and start calling out the letters of the exercise word he’d see on the screen…

he’d say, “M-A-S-O-N…T-W-I-S-T…what spell, what spell, what spell?”

it was a lot of fun hearing him call (or yell) out the letters and I didn’t mind because he was using his words and his brain.

Tony also has these sayings like “Bring It!” and “Do your best…forget the rest” and they’re catchy so I’d tell him and my daughter to “bring it” and he’d give me a high-five and say “bring it”

If you’re reading this and you don’t have a child on the Spectrum then you have no idea how great this type of interaction is…might seem small but in my world it’s HUGE!  To get him to engage and respond…I love it.

P90X is a 90-day routine and I just kept on doing it for about 120-150 days…so we all were very familiar with the routines and the words and phrases.  After P90X I did Insanity with Shaun T. which is similar but more core work.

Again…Shaun T. is one who has a lot of sayings and so my son would learn those as well.  Then he would start doing drills like Mummy Kicks or other exercises and it was fun because I could tell that he wanted to mimic what I was doing and be a part of it.

So there it is…the #3 most important invention for the autism world…not what you’d expect but that these workout videos (dvds) allowed me to share fun moments and interactions with my son and that he would work on calling letters and remembering phrases (even if he didn’t know what they meant)…well worth the sweat and pain!

Thanks Tony Horton and P90X and Shaun T. and Insanity…not only am I getting in great shape but I’m spending time with my son and that’s what’s most important!

BRING IT!

To read more blogs from Seth and TheFowler4Group, check out their Website (www.lookatmyeyes.com) and while you’re there, buy a copy of their book, “Look At My Eyes”.  Or find them on YouTube.  To contact TheFowler4 Group email: info@thefowler4group.com

Talking to Family Members About your Special-Ism Needs Child

This blog was written for the WONDERFUL and HELPFUL Website: Special-ism.com.  It is an honor and privileged to write a monthly Daddy Blog for them.  Hope you enjoy…

Talking to Family Members About your Special-Ism Needs Child

If your situation was anything like ours—our first child was diagnosed with autismat age three—I’m sure you can relate to this blog.

Whatever the special-ism need…ADHD, anxiety, FASD, Autism, not important…there’s always that dreaded conversation that you are going to have with your family and friends about your child….

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We’re asking the WRONG questions when it comes to Autism!

Okay, here’s a dad’s rant about autism…enjoy

Recently my wife and I were interviewed for CBS 11 in Fort Worth/Dallas regarding the recent study that said 1 in 88 children are now diagnosed with some form of pervasive developmental disorder.

Mainly they wanted to ask about our feelings of the change in numbers (previously it was 1 in 100 children) and all that good stuff.

How I feel?  Dude…you should’ve asked me that 4 years ago when my son was diagnosed with autism…how I feel about a report that doesn’t really pertain to me or the state of my family?  I’m sad that numbers are increasing…I’m sad that not much SEEMS to be going on to help these numbers.

Other than that it’s just a report.  They can make numbers say just about anything.  Is there a problem?  YES.  But the story should not be in the numbers…it needs to be in other things.

WE’RE ASKING THE WRONG QUESTIONS when it comes to reports and autism and our children.

Soapbox #1 from Seth: I care but I really don’t care if the stats are 1 in 1,000 or 1 in 10 children who are diagnosed on the spectrum…the fact is that they have IT or they have something else going on with them that is keeping them from being “typical” so instead of worrying about reports–why don’t we worry about how funding is so bad?

I love Texas.  I have lived in other countries and other states and I love Texas.  I have grown up here and I want to be here for as long as I live…but some times I want to SMACK! the state of Texas, politicians, law makers, people who decide funding.

Yes I know our public schools stink–they are only going to get worse btw.

If 1 in 88 children are on the spectrum…where is the funding for these children?

Why are we all up in arms about these reports…BUT not up in arms (as much) about the pathetic excuse states like the great state of Texas have for not funding research, education, training.

As I so eloquently stated in the TV interview…”The issue is not the report, the issue is What the Heck are We Going to do with these precious children when 1 in 88 of them are 18, 19, 20+ years old?”

Soapbox from Seth #2: According to the Harvard School of Public Health: “The cost of a lifetime of care for one person with autism is $3.2 million, mostly in lost productivity and adult care”

And yet where is our funding?  I recently read an article that stated how autism affects more children in the U.S. than diabetes, childhood AIDS, CP, TB, and a bunch of other ailments…I think even cancer in children…COMBINED.

What’s it going to take to get  the public’s attention beyond wearing a blue puzzle piece or being aware for a month in April?

We need to be asking these questions:

1. What are we doing TODAY to decrease 1 in 88 children?  What are we doing for our minority communities?  How are we reaching all Americans and informing them early signs of detection or intervention?

2. What are we doing about educating parents who are just now learning that their child is on the autism spectrum?

3. What are we doing about putting 1 in 88 into an educational environment to learn in their own unique way–NEWS FLASH…children on the spectrum aren’t dumb…they’re not worthless or useless or unable to integrate into typical society…we just need to learn to educate and reach them so they can maximize their potential

4. What are we doing to educate SOCIETY about how to interact with 1 in 88?

5. What kind of programs, therapies, training are we providing the 1 in 88 at an early age?  We can’t wait and hope that our public (or even private) schools will all of a sudden help our children as they start Kindergarten

6. How are we making it possible for all families to afford the proper therapy?

7. How are we training businesses and owners to employ, train and help make our 1 in 88 successful tax-paying citizens?

8. What about housing for the 1 in 88 when they reach their 20’s, 30’s, 40’s?

I could go on and on but my blood pressure is rising and I’m rambling.

It’s not about a report.  Yeah 1 in 88 sucks…so what then?

What are we prepared to do and when are people going to start listening?

To read more blogs from Seth and TheFowler4Group, check out their Website (www.lookatmyeyes.com) and while you’re there, buy a copy of their book, “Look At My Eyes”.  Or find them on YouTube.  To contact TheFowler4 Group email: info@thefowler4group.com